Mental Illness or Mental Wellness: Notes from the Field
I recently received some Theta Healing from Miriam Amylah Blazova, and I have to tell you that I am quite impressed with the immediate results that I observed from this healing session. I highly recommend Miriam as a Theta Healer, and I definitely recommend Theta Healing as a gentle and effective way to deal with core issues or patterns that you may wish to resolve or change.
I have been struggling recently with the issue of setting healthy boundaries with people that I am close to. I have been really struggling with this for the past few years. It has been a recurring problem and I asked for assistance with this issue during my healing session. Soon after our session was complete, I began to feel things shift around inside of me and found myself processing some very profound thoughts and ideas. After that I had a huge “Aha!” moment, that I would like to share with you.
After my healing session, I began to think about something that I often do with other people in my life. When I have some sort of conflict with someone I go through a process where I think about my actions, I think about their actions and I break the situation down. I take what is mine and own it, and parcel out what I believe to be theirs. I haven’t had too many conflicts in my life, so when I do I often find the process to be quite devastating or traumatizing. I will often find myself retreating inwards and internalizing the whole process. One way that I cope with the situation is that I give the person a list of excuses to explain away their behaviour. I then find myself defining that person, quite simply, as being mentally unwell or mentally unstable. They get the “mental illness” label.
I started to think about what mental illness was, and I thought about all the people in my life that I have assigned this unfortunate label. The list was starting to look long. Mental illness was ranging from everything from being bipolar to depression, psychotic behaviour to strange habits. I decided to have a heart to heart with Archangel Metatron about this. I asked him if all the people I had listed were mentally ill, and he said yes. I then had this heart sinking feeling and I asked “Am I mentally ill?”. The answer was: Yes! I couldn’t believe it! I then asked: “Are all humans mentally ill?”. Metatron answered: Yes. He then said: “Mental suffering or mental illness is part of the human condition. No person is immune to mental illness. Every human being will experiences mental illness in their life.”
Having to be honest with myself and face my own mental illness, I came to the next part of my realization. All of these unhealthy patterns in my life are a direct result of my mental illness. For example, the reason why I allow people to be abusive towards me is that I have negative self-talk and I don’t know how to stand up to bullying. Instead of standing up for myself, I shut down. I then started to think: what does mental wellness look like? Mental wellness, for myself, would mean me learning to stand up for myself and not allow people to bully me. I will not allow them to say negative and hurtful things to me, and I will not allow other people push me around. Being able to establish clear boundaries with people is detrimental to my mental wellness. How else can I create a safe environment for myself? It seems clear to me that in order for me to create mental wellness in my life, I am going to have to say no to all of the things that bring mental illness into my life. I have to stand brave like a warrior and and firmly say yes to all the things that bring mental wellness into my life, while turning away all the thing that bring mental illness into my life.
Here is the other important thing that I learned in this whole process, and this was resonated by something that Miriam said to me during the healing: It’s not for me to decide what another person’s mental illness is. It’s time for me to mind my own business. When I go around labeling other people’s mental illness, I am enforcing my own mental illness. It’s the Law of Attraction. If I go around focusing on mental illness – my own and other people’s mental illness – then I am consistently bringing mental illness into my life. Do I want to keep bringing mental illness into my life? Hell no! I want to encourage and develop my mental wellness, and ultimately I want to encourage the well being in everyone else.
That’s it in a nutshell: Focus on mental wellness. Focus on mental wellness. Focus on mental wellness.
I am well. I am well. I am well.
This is the lense that I am now choosing to see my world through. I find myself asking now: Is this for my highest good? Is this good for me? Is this going to help with my mental wellness? If something I am doing is not in accordance with my well being, then I must stop it. If I am interacting with another human being and the things that they are saying or doing are not promoting my well being, then it is my job, it is my duty to myself, to remove myself from the situation. I think it is okay to ask someone to stop doing something that I find harmful to myself in any way, shape or form. If I do not feel comfortable asking them to stop, then it is my responsibility to remove myself from the situation. There is no reason that is a good enough reason to allow myself to be in situations that are not good for me.
I am not saying it is going to be easy. I am not saying that I won’t make mistakes along the way. I am not saying that this is what’s best for you, but I am saying is that I think it will be worth it.
I am choosing mental wellness over mental illness.
Thank you for letting me share!
Many blessings to all of you ❤