Card: 15 ‘AWA (The Kava Plant) Offering/Sacrifice – from the Mana Cards: The Power of Hawaiian Wisdom by Catherine Kalama Becker, Ph.D. and Doya Nardin.
“‘Awa teaches that to avoid bitterness it is important to examine your perceptions regarding giving and receiving. With regard to giving, you may want to examine whether you are giving freely or giving with the expectation of getting something back. This distinction also applies to offering an opinion. Sometimes it is important to speak your truth without expecting another to respond as you think they should.”
Message from the Faeries: Even though the kava plant can taste so bitter, it has amazing healing properties. Sometimes the healing journey can a bitter one. When you are healing yourself, you sometimes remember all the pain and trauma you endured. These memories can bring up feelings of anger and resentment. You may also feel anger and resentment when you give people gifts, praise or affection and they give you nothing in return.
Whatever is the root of your trauma and feelings of hurt, there is one commonality: they are the result of situations in your life where you had unmet expectations. You wanted to receive something in return for the gift you gave – whether you wanted it then or later. You expected love in return for the love you gave. You desperately hoped that because you trusted someone that they would honour that trust you had in them.
This week, when you find yourself giving to others, pay attention to the motives and feelings behind what you offer. You could be giving someone a gift, or it could be your time and energy. Whatever it is you gift to others, we suggest you try to only extend yourself freely. Try to give only when you feel like it, and only when you expect nothing in return. Try your best! It can certainly be a challenge to be so honest with yourself and others, but you might find it to be a habit worth adopting. You may also want to try doing the same exercise with receiving as well. What are genuinely willing to receive from others?
We love you,