“One reason why the fairies are so happy is because they’re assertive with each other. This trait is very different from aggression, which denies the rights of others. Assertiveness, in contrast, honors everyone’s rights (including your own). Assertive people are easy to get along with because you always know where you stand with them.”
Message from the Faeries: Some people might think that when we talk about being assertive, we mean being bossy, demanding, pushy or a bully. This is most definitely not the case. When we ask you to be more assertive this week, we are asking you to assert yourself. To assert yourself means to be yourself no matter what. This week we are asking you to be yourself no matter what, even if it goes against the current.
Some people are afraid to be themselves. Often this is because when they were younger they were either made fun of by their peers, or their parents told they were wrong all the time. This, is a rather sad thing that has happened to many of you in your life. We hope that you will collectively be able to break this pattern for all future humans. In the meantime, it will have to be up to you to break your own patterns of self-diminishing behaviours.
Many of you have, literally, been dying inside to have a chance to shine and be your true selves. There is honestly no time like the present to start. Some of you will just dive right into this, while others will have to take babysteps. One of the first steps that you can take is to start saying ‘No’ to people. This is actually a pretty big step to take, but we know that you will end up really enjoying this one. At first it might feel really strange. Someone asks you to do a favour that you really don’t want to do: Say no! Just do it. If you start to feel bad, get over it! It’s okay to say no. You have every right in the world to not do something you don’t want to do. It’s hard to imagine, but it’s absolutely true. Some people might try telling you that everyone has to do things that they don’t want to do. To us, this is completely untrue and we see it as a lie that was sold to humans a long time ago.
Being assertive really just means just being your true self at all times. There is no need to hide behind a mask. Stop lying to yourself and your loved ones about who you really are. Of course, it might surprise some of your friends and family to see the real you, and it might even upset a few people. If you really think about it though, what is the long term cost of living a lie? If you took your last breath tomorrow, would you have any regrets in that moment? How is your health being affected by all your facades? You may discover, through the revealing of your true self, that most people in your life already knew who you really are all along. They always saw behind your act and knew your “true potential”. Those who can’t handle the truth, probably aren’t worth having around.
We hope that all of you spend this upcoming week exploring yourselves, and that you experiment with letting your masks down. Do whatever is within your comfort zone. Maybe you just spend the week saying no to people. Maybe you dress how you really love to dress, even if others might find it strange. Maybe you tell somone how you really feel when they say something that hurts you. Maybe you allow yourself to take some time off work and apply for jobs that you really want to be doing. Whatever it is you decide to do, have fun being you. You are amazing!
We love you,